An article entitled “Brides buck tradition and ditch the white dress” on CNN.com caught my attention this morning. The article praises women who choose to wear greens or blues or whatever color that isn’t white on their wedding day. Check out a few quotes:
“People are starting to open up their minds a bit,” Rogers said. “It takes a certain bride — usually a second wedding. They’ve already done the white, traditional gown. They don’t want to feel like a first-time bride.”
“[White] is universally hard to wear for so many body and skin types,” she said. “And the average American bride is older now. … The whole ‘I’m a virgin and I’m wearing white’ [thing] is kind of silly now.”
Did you catch that… “The whole ‘I’m a virgin and I’m wearing white’ [thing] is kind of silly now.” Really?! Unfortunately, that’s a statement shared by many today.
I’m not out to save white wedding dresses, so don’t misunderstand me: what I’m upset about is the disregard for purity in our culture. Even the word “Purity” is sneered at today (or so it seems). The white dress is about more than tradition, it’s about valuing your future spouse enough to live in a way that you can give yourself to him/her without any guilt or shame.
In the midst of a culture where second-marriages are no big deal and living together before getting married is kind of expected, the call of God in Romans 12:1-2 shouts out even more powerfully. “Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God—this is your spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”
Two recommended resources: “And the Bride Wore White” is a great book for young women to read about the value and importance of sexual purity. A few of the girls in my youth group have read this and they all loved it! “When Young Men are Tempted” is a really good, biblical, and practical book to help teenage guys work through sexual temptations and seek freedom in Christ.