I just read one of the best articles on CNN I’ve ever read. “Sex ed in the age of Snooki” is a great reality check for parents, grandparents, teachers, pastors and anyone else who cares about children and teenagers.
The author, Ian Kerner, hits the nail on the head:
“On the surface, I’ve got it easy as a parent—my wife and I have two sons. ‘Boys will be boys’ goes the conventional wisdom. We’ve come to expect—and often excuse—their bad behavior. That means it falls on a girl’s shoulders to have the self-confidence and self-esteem to create and protect boundaries in respect to her sexuality. While I think it’s important to teach girls how to be empowered gatekeepers of their own sexuality, I also believe that we have to focus on the boys, not let them off the hook. If girls operate in the male gaze (both actual and internalized), then we need to change that gaze. Boys need to learn how to see girls differently.”
Dr. Kerner provides some really helpful and practical (but not easy) advice for parents who want to raise sexually healthy children. I strongly encourage anyone reading this post to read the article linked to above (it’s fairly short too, so it’s not a tall order).